Well that was a longer commercial break than intended, TL;DR..
🕑 Added 2023-06-26 05:57:45 +0000 UTC
Well that was a longer commercial break than intended, TL;DR we're back to our regularly scheduled programming!
The lengthier version?
I spent a week with my family in California, felt enlightened, came home and wrote the equivalent of a mini-dissertation for my court case (10k words + photo's from 2016-2023) (VERY taxing for someone like me !!! I cannot even begin to explain lol), whittled it down to 5k words, poured over it with my lawyer, and at the last minute decided to settle out of court.
To turn it from a civil case to a criminal case it would cost another 10-20k in lawyer fee's, I'd have to file police reports with my evidence against her or potentially her boyfriend because she used his identity to harass me, and then get a subpoena for her phone/laptop to bring full charges against her. As well as spend months of my time dealing with it, maybe even a year+.
And you know what? By the time I was done compiling my experience and getting support/declarations/statements against her from 6 other people for my case, I just wasn't mad anymore. The people harmed by her have great lives going for them, as do I.
Everyone knows and has my back, I can feel the UNIVERSE having my back. I feel protected, I feel loved. I more than got it out of my system.
It was so much more stress to carry on, and despite EVERYTHING, I still didn't want to ruin the girls life with a criminal record. It also wasn't promised I'd get back the money in a timely manner, though reimbursement for legal fee's was part of the suit as well as compensation for lost wages from time I had to spend on this. But people can claim not to have the money and pay you 5$ a month til the end of their life if they want.
I can think of A LOT of better, WAY MORE FUN things to do with 30k than spend it on litigation for something I can woo-sah and love-away. ๐
I went over the options with my lawyer for an hour, thought about it for 2 more, and then decided the best thing I could do for myself was STILL have compassion and just make it something neither of us had to deal with any more.
Nothing felt right, my guts felt sick.
At first I felt like it had all been for nothing, but then I realized it's just being true to myself and my nature. No matter how much people try to make me suffer, I still don't want to do the same to them, and I'm proud of that.
At least I have all of the files on hand if I need them in the future, and then I will do what is necessary.
I had my lawyer draft a settlement agreement at the last minute, and the next morning it was signed and over. I immediately felt better.
Two days later I flew to NYC to see one of my favorite people in concert (Peach PRC!!!), came home and went on a camping trip to Mount Shasta, and graced myself with lots of sleep, good eats, and peace.
I'll carry on my message in my next post for people who don't wanna read all this
